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Knee Deep in De-Nesting

October 29, 2025 • Cady & Sharilyn • Season 2 • Episode 5

What happens when you love your partner but living together just isn’t working? Cady and Sharilyn dive into the concept of de-nesting — choosing to live apart while staying together — and how it can reshape what commitment looks like.

Cady shares her personal story of de-nesting with her husband Navarre after nearly a decade of cohabitation, revealing what led to the decision, how neurodivergence played a role, and how they maintain connection and intimacy across two homes.

Later, Navarre joins for a candid conversation about how de-nesting strengthened their marriage, improved communication, and reignited appreciation for intentional time together.

In this episode:

What “de-nesting” actually means (and how it’s not a breakup)
How to know when it’s time to consider living separately
The intersection of neurodivergence, non-monogamy, and household dynamics
Redefining what “marriage” looks like outside of monogamy and cohabitation
Why intentionality beats proximity in long-term relationships

Mentioned in this episode:

Couples therapy & communication practices
Emotional labor and household management
The importance of chosen family and queer community

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